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A few shifts that tend to help: For the partner who pursues, slowing down the pace of the conversation. Fewer questions, more space, less pressure to resolve immediately. The shutdown often eases when the pressure does. For the partner who withdraws, naming what's happening in their body, even briefly. "I'm starting to feel overwhelmed and I need a minute" gives the other person information instead of leaving them to interpret silence. This is hard to do mid-flood, which is why practicing the language during calm moments matters. For both partners, agreeing on a way to pause that doesn't feel like abandonment. A break that includes a clear time to come back ("Can we take twenty minutes and pick this back up?") is different from one person walking away indefinitely. The first protects both people. The second usually triggers more of the pattern. Over time, the goal is not to eliminate the pattern entirely. 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